I think people love to make comments about one's physical appearance.
Just because you look fat, doesn't mean you like to be reminded or called 'fat' again and again, even by virtual strangers. Just because you are 'thin', doesn't mean you are starving yourself, or 'don't eat enough', it may be in your genetics and you just cannot put on weight no matter how much you eat.
What irks me is how people think they are entitled to judge and if we retort by trying to give them a taste of their own medicine, they cannot accept it, hey, if you wanna judge me then prepared to be judged back as well. Do unto others what you wish to be done unto you.
Superficiality seems to rule today's world.
Everything seems superficial, everything must be beautiful and conform to the 'acceptable standards' of beauty, set by the mass media or just what people think others think.
Recently, a very nice girl I know was reduced to tears when a guy reprimanded her for 'eating and being fat like a pig', said straight to her face, not once but repeated to her and she rushed to the ladies as she was too hurt to even be in the presence of that mean guy. As of today, she is still no longer friends with that 'friend'. Some friends are better off 'defriended'.
Not too long ago, another very nice girl who is still single, has all the things going for her in life, tried to get to know a guy 'introduced' and it was almost like a blind date, only that 'date' never happened, the 'meeting' never ventured outside fb. The guy had self-esteem issues and to cover it up, he mentioned that the girl isn't attractive enough and the word 'fat' came into the picture again. Geez, you missed out knowing a perfectly nice girl just because she is a few kg overweight? For the record, that guy is still single. Same goes to the guy in the first case mentioned above. Be picky and soon enough, all the girls will stop looking at you and even the ones you call 'fat' will not even be bothered with you when you are 40 and still single!!! Unless you are filthy rich of course, which is another point of superciality, but let's leave it at that.
I am not particularly irked today, but just wanted to pen my thoughts now in this blogpost, food for thought. Just a blogpost to say it's June already! Mid-year and I have a mid-year resolution.
Yes, I have had my fair share of "you are too fat" by well-meaning and ill-meaning people, including strangers. I do blame my hormones (which I do put into my body artificially in my attempt to conceive), but I know I should make more effort in exercising, which I can control, as it is my lifestyle and I have power over how I want to live my life. I have learned not to let the 'comments' get to me after awhile. Anyway, as I am already past the 30 mark in age, I plan to be healthier. Let's see how much I can lose in the next two months, for health, not for beauty. I think I am good-looking enough, fat or thin. :-)
4 comments:
My dear friend, you are so beautiful inside and out. Some people can not look past the "cover of the book" and miss a really good person. We always say "Don't judge a book by the cover". I grew up on the chubby side and was tormented in school, even when I got older and the pounds came off. It was my past of being overweight tormented me all through school, until I graduated.
I think if a person doesn't want to get to know someone with a little weight, it's their loss. That's my 2 cents for what it's worth.
My dear friend, you are so beautiful inside and out. Some people can not look past the "cover of the book" and miss a really good person. We always say "Don't judge a book by the cover". I grew up on the chubby side and was tormented in school, even when I got older and the pounds came off. It was my past of being overweight tormented me all through school, until I graduated.
I think if a person doesn't want to get to know someone with a little weight, it's their loss. That's my 2 cents for what it's worth.
My dear friend, you are so beautiful inside and out. Some people can not look past the "cover of the book" and miss a really good person. We always say "Don't judge a book by the cover". I grew up on the chubby side and was tormented in school, even when I got older and the pounds came off. It was my past of being overweight tormented me all through school, until I graduated.
I think if a person doesn't want to get to know someone with a little weight, it's their loss. That's my 2 cents for what it's worth.
My dear friend, you are so beautiful inside and out. Some people can not look past the "cover of the book" and miss a really good person. We always say "Don't judge a book by the cover". I grew up on the chubby side and was tormented in school, even when I got older and the pounds came off. It was my past of being overweight tormented me all through school, until I graduated.
I think if a person doesn't want to get to know someone with a little weight, it's their loss. That's my 2 cents for what it's worth.
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